My mother discovering my yaoi hobby involves of all things, the Sensitive Pornograph manga. (yeah you know this is going to be a good story).
It all goes back to my first job, which of course was in fast food. My first job was at KFC and I must admit out of all the jobs I have had over the years, it was the job I enjoyed the most. Maybe it’s nostalgia for that first taste of freedom of being in the working world, I really don’t know but I know I loved my job… until I had to quit that is, but that is not the story I am telling today with this post.
I was new to the yaoi fandom back then and sadly back then the few local and not so local places that sold manga back then, very rarely got yaoi titles in. So I turned to the internet and online sites to buy my yaoi manga from. I would spend so much of my pay back then on taking myself out for meals, going to book stores and buying yaoi manga online.
Every couple of weeks packages would arrive at our front door filled with books and as soon as I got a hold of them I would run to my room, rip them open and by the next morning most times I would be done reading the latest addition to my growing collection. The only time this was not the case was when my copies of Ai no Kusabi arrived because they are light novels not manga and take a little longer for me to read.
This had been going on for months as I had been working and then one day, I was home when the postman delivered my latest purchase. This had been a larger than usual purchase as there had been a sale on the site I was using. Not completely thinking at the time I opened the parcel in the lounge room where my mum was sitting at the time. Most of what I had bought was tame, except one title that had arrived with extra wrapping.
This caught my mum’s curiosity as I was unpacking the other manga and she unwrapped the manga, said manga was Sensitive Pornograph. She opened the manga to a random page and made an ‘oh…ok’ statement. I looked up and saw what she had opened, it was on the climax page of the ‘Trophies only belong in the Bedroom’ story.
At the time I think I was more embarrassed than my mum because after that she said nothing. What came of it was a conversation with my mum about my hobby and her acceptance of it because at the end of the day, it wasn’t something dangerous.
I lucked out I suppose because my hobby was not fall blown till I was over the age of 18. Sharing your hobby with you parents can be awkward. To this day my father still does not completely know, but that is more because he does not care what I do as long as I don’t hurt others or myself and not fear of hate from him because of it.
Acceptance won’t always come for our hobbies as I stated in My Life as a Yaoi Fangirl – Dealing with Misconceptions and Hate, and this will include from families for many different reasons. Though I don;t have anything to say about justifying the hobby if you are under age because well the law is the law when it comes to what is classified as 18+ material, enjoying what you enjoy is not what makes you you, you are. A hobby is just a part of you.