Blogger Recognition Award 2020

Meaningful musing, random musing, yaoi

Been a while since I have done one of these tagged posts. Not because I have not been tagged and to those who tag me and I don’t respond, I apologize for not taking part but a lot of it comes down to if I have time to take part and whether or not I have done the tag before and whether the subject of the tag peeks my interest, and this one certainly does. A big thank you to Anime Rants for the nomination always happy to see your likes and comments on my posts!

Here are the rules for this post!

Thank the person who nominated you and feature a link to their blog in your award post.

Post the award banner somewhere on your blog.

Share the reason why you started your blog.

Share two pieces of advice that could benefit new bloggers.

Nominate a maximum of fifteen other bloggers.

Tell your nominees about your award post so they can participate!

Why Yaoi?

Why I Started Blogging, Or Why I Started Yaoi Playground

When I first started reading blog posts, most of the blogs I read were anime blogs and I loved reading other peoples reviews of anime and manga as well as watching YouTube videos on the subject, but the more I read and watch there was something I quickly began to notice. The anime review community was very much an echo chamber of people sharing a lot of the same opinions, talking and writing about the same manga and anime, most of it was the mainstream popular titles than people wanted to talk about to ‘get the views’ and to be honest a lot of these series they were covering though I would consider myself a casual fan of a lot of it none of it was what I loved, that being boys love and yaoi.

Boys Love and especially the yaoi side of things (you know the 18+ stuff) no one was openly taking a critical eye to. You would get the occasional comment about how ‘toxic’ the yaoi shipping community was or people going on and on about how problematic as a whole the genre was. No one talked about the wholesome side of the community, nobody talked about the true works of arts and masterpieces within the genre. These were discussions I wanted to see in the anime and manga community and I still do, that is why I started this blog.

I wanted to and still do want to talk about what is important to the yaoi community. I want to talk about upcoming projects that have the community excited, I want to talk about the importance of fanfiction and fanart within our community. I want to break the stereotypes people have for what makes a yaoi fan!

Two Important Pieces of Advice to New Bloggers

Do what you love! There is no point blogging about something you do not love or are not passion about because if you do the burnout will happen fast and you will quickly lose your motivation to blog and this goes without saying but if you go into blogging expecting to make money quick you are going to very quickly be disappointed. Before you grow your audience you need to know what you want to write, if you have to bend and change your passions to keep your audience then maybe this is not for you.

Burnout will happen and that is OK. No matter how much passion and love you have for what you do, you will eventually hit a wall, you will feel burnt out. It happens to all of us and that is OK. It is ok to take a step back and give yourself a break if you need it, your blog is not going anywhere it will still be here when you get back and your readers who support you will be here when you get back to. Don’t feel obligated to post subpar work just because you have a blogging schedule to stick to. Rushed work will be forever bad, take your time to make something you are proud of.

Nomination Time!

I Nominate the following amazing bloggers and have linked my favourite posts from them with their nomination that are so worth checking out!

Irina – I Drink and Watch Anime

Matthew – Matt in the Hat

Fred – This is My Place

Lita – Lita Kino Anime Corner

Why I will No Longer support J.K. Rowling

lgbtq+, Meaningful musing, random musing

Now this might seem like a strange subject to bring up on a blog that has most of it’s focus on the boys love and yaoi genre, but and this will come as no surprise to anyone who has been in the Harry Potter fandom for a long time, but for those who do not know, there is quite a large yaoi shipping community around the Harry Potter franchise as a whole. I wrote about this briefly in my fanfic rec post about the site Walking the Plank a fanfic community that works specifically with the ship Snarry (Snape X Harry) but as I have watched the disgusting comments continue to come from J.K. Rowling I find myself having to take a giant step back, and debate whether I want to continue to be part of a fandom that gives money to someone who shares such vile and frankly dangerous information.

J.K. Rowling has become the modern poster woman for TERFs and I do not give a flying fuck if you find this word disgusting because to put it very bluntly the bullshit these kinds of people spout is disgusting and dangerous. To those who don’t know the meaning of this word it stands for Trans-Exclusive Radical Feminism, basically feminists that believe trans woman are not real woman and therefore don’t deserve the same rights as cis woman (cis being the term for those who gender identity match the medical sex they were assigned at birth). If it was just a matter of them not including trans woman I honestly would probably not have much of a problem with them. I would still see them as bigots but at the end of the day you can not force others to let those they do not want into their chosen group. What makes these kinds of feminists dangerous is the fact that they outright deny in some cases the fact that trans people actually exist and go as far as deliberately using the wrong pronouns when they know someone is trans and out right deadnaming trans men and women, and yes I said trans men as well because a lot of TERFs hate trans men more than woman but that is a discussion for another time.

Over the last few years more and more transphobic comments have been coming from J.K. Rowling. When I first signed up for Twitter over a decade ago, her twitter account was one of the first celeb accounts I followed because I had so much respect for her as a write and loved Harry Potter so much as a young adult. Near the end of 2018 I unfollowed her because I was not impressed and honestly a little disturbed by some of her views. That being said I am someone who firmly believes that people can believe whatever the hell they would like, but to share one of my all time favourite quotes…

This post has nothing to do with religion but religion can in this infamous quote be changed for opinion and the meaning behind the quote is the same. It is when someone begins sharing opinions as facts that things begin to become dangerous and that is exactly what J.K. Rowling’s views on gender dysphoria and the trans community are at the end of the day, they are opinions. She has not studied the so called ‘medical scandal’ about gender disphoria she likes to go on and on about, but her fans and followers are taking her statements as facts which is spreading hate towards a community that does not deserve it.

I love her wizarding world of fiction so much. I have made friends over the years thanks to her work, but as someone who is a part of the LGBTQ+ and supporter of those within this community I can not in good conscious do anything that will in the future promote her work or spend my own money on anything from the fandom that I know will put money in her pocket. I cannot support the work and ignore the author’s actions because supporting her work does financially support her and to to blunt once again but she really needs to shut up about a subject she knows absolutely nothing about.

I will admit myself am not an expert on the subject myself, so in closing this post I want to share a video that goes further into detail about why her views are dangerous to the community. Please support the amazing channel behind this video.

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Looking to the future

Meaningful musing

Last year I made a post about my father being diagnosed with cancer. Since then my posts on here have been very sporadic as was helping my mother help take care of my father and helping him had been my number one priority for this past year. On December 9, my father lost his fight with cancer, but we were able to give him his final wish of not dying in hospital and he left us at home surrounded by family and love.

My dad was a hard working man all his life that enjoyed the simple pleasures life had to bring. He loved his family, friends and his football team. A die hard Fremantle Dockers fan he was, a whole corner dedicated to them in his man shed out back. He enjoyed simple plain old fashioned food and it always made him smile when I made a Sunday roast for himself and me.

I want to return to blogging properly in 2020 and make a real go of it. 2019 has been one hell of a shit year for me and my family, but if there is one lesson my father instilled in me it is this. You have to take it one day at a time no matter how hard or easy life is, you have to keep moving forward and work for what you want because no one is going to hand it to you.